The Save The Marriage Podcast
Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
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It is such a common demand from a spouse during a marital crisis: “I need space! You just need to give me space!”
Yet here I am, telling you to connect with your spouse, to rebuild the broken connection that led to the crisis.
Are they opposites?
One listener to the Save The Marriage Podcast was wondering. Which means that others might be wondering the same thing.
Here is the problem: When your marriage is in crisis and a spouse asks for space, if you can’t give it, your spouse will demand MORE space. And if that is not given, your spouse will force even MORE space. Each step causes deeper disconnection and a deeper crisis.
And yet, you know you need to fix the disconnection in order to heal the crisis. It just seems that connecting and giving space are opposite ends. But that is mainly because of the way you are trying to connect. You can accidentally be crowding, not connecting.
Listen in to discover the truth about “space” and how to connect without crowding.
(And if you have questions you want answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE TO SEND THEM.)
RELATED RESOURCES
What is Space?
Why is Connection Important?
How To Stop Chasing
Taking Responsibility
Save The Marriage System
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Yet here I am, telling you to connect with your spouse, to rebuild the broken connection that led to the crisis.
Are they opposites?
One listener to the Save The Marriage Podcast was wondering. Which means that others might be wondering the same thing.
Here is the problem: When your marriage is in crisis and a spouse asks for space, if you can’t give it, your spouse will demand MORE space. And if that is not given, your spouse will force even MORE space. Each step causes deeper disconnection and a deeper crisis.
And yet, you know you need to fix the disconnection in order to heal the crisis. It just seems that connecting and giving space are opposite ends. But that is mainly because of the way you are trying to connect. You can accidentally be crowding, not connecting.
Listen in to discover the truth about “space” and how to connect without crowding.
(And if you have questions you want answered on the podcast, CLICK HERE TO SEND THEM.)
RELATED RESOURCES
What is Space?
Why is Connection Important?
How To Stop Chasing
Taking Responsibility
Save The Marriage System
VIP Program
Previous episodes
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872 - “Space” vs. ConnectionWed, 17 Jul 2024 - 0h
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871 - 4 Stages of Crisis AwarenessWed, 10 Jul 2024 - 0h
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870 - Who’s The Bigger Victim?Wed, 03 Jul 2024 - 0h
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869 - “What About ME??” – When YOU Feel UnlovedWed, 26 Jun 2024 - 0h
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868 - What Makes Marital Therapy Succeed or Fail?? The FactorsWed, 19 Jun 2024 - 0h
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867 - Force Connection??Wed, 12 Jun 2024 - 0h
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866 - “I Can’t”… are you sure??Wed, 05 Jun 2024
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865 - What can you do alone?Wed, 29 May 2024 - 0h
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864 - CAUTION: Open Season on Your MarriageFri, 24 May 2024 - 0h
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863 - Waking Up To The CrisisThu, 23 May 2024 - 0h
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862 - Don’t Be a Chaser or a Spacer! (Do This Instead)Wed, 15 May 2024 - 0h
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861 - The Path to IntimacyWed, 08 May 2024 - 0h
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860 - From Pause Button to Panic ButtonThu, 02 May 2024 - 0h
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859 - No, this will NOT fix your marriage! (but it’s the #1 request in therapy)Wed, 24 Apr 2024 - 0h
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858 - Dealing With an Indifferent SpouseWed, 03 Apr 2024 - 0h
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857 - 3 Failpoints You FaceWed, 27 Mar 2024 - 0h
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856 - Milestones and Markers — 500 Episodes!Thu, 21 Mar 2024 - 0h
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855 - The Trick to Saving Your MarriageWed, 13 Mar 2024 - 0h
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854 - Facing FACTsThu, 07 Mar 2024 - 0h
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853 - How to Get Help for Your Marriage… and Mistakes To AvoidWed, 28 Feb 2024 - 0h
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852 - The Connection TrapWed, 21 Feb 2024 - 0h
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851 - The Pause ProblemWed, 14 Feb 2024 - 0h
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850 - 7 Complicators to Your Efforts to Save Your MarriageWed, 24 Jan 2024 - 0h
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849 - Dealing with Depression and a Marriage CrisisWed, 17 Jan 2024 - 0h
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848 - The Ghosts of Your Relationship PastWed, 20 Dec 2023 - 0h
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847 - Stuck in the NegativeWed, 13 Dec 2023 - 0h
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846 - Dealing with Disrespect and BoundariesWed, 06 Dec 2023 - 0h
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845 - Why You Can’t Force ConnectionWed, 29 Nov 2023 - 0h
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844 - Dealing with a Heavy Holiday — in the midst of a marriage crisisTue, 21 Nov 2023 - 0h
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843 - How the Created Past Hurts Your MarriageWed, 15 Nov 2023 - 0h
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842 - Are Things Improving?? How do you know??Wed, 08 Nov 2023 - 0h
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841 - Take These 3 Steps To Save Your MarriageMon, 30 Oct 2023 - 0h
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840 - Why Your Spouse Can’t See A Way ForwardThu, 12 Oct 2023 - 0h
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839 - The Road to Divorce: 8 StopsWed, 04 Oct 2023 - 0h
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838 - The 7 Stages of DisconnectionWed, 27 Sep 2023 - 0h
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837 - Why You Aren’t Getting StartedWed, 20 Sep 2023 - 0h
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836 - Are You Showing Up??Wed, 16 Aug 2023 - 0h
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835 - When Your Spouse Has Lost HopeWed, 19 Jul 2023 - 0h
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834 - The Perception/Connection TrapWed, 12 Jul 2023 - 0h
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833 - Apology ≠ ForgivingWed, 05 Jul 2023 - 0h
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832 - The Blame – Shame TrapWed, 28 Jun 2023 - 0h
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831 - Derailed? Why and what to do…Wed, 31 May 2023 - 0h
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830 - Saving your marriage… 2 dangerous approachesWed, 17 May 2023 - 0h
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829 - Changing… and proving itWed, 26 Apr 2023 - 0h
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828 - Finding the Energy to ContinueWed, 12 Apr 2023 - 0h
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827 - “I need space!” — that’s tough!Wed, 29 Mar 2023 - 0h
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826 - Enemies, Victims, or….Wed, 22 Mar 2023 - 0h
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825 - Dragged UnderWed, 15 Mar 2023 - 0h
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824 - 4 Failing FearsWed, 01 Mar 2023 - 0h
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823 - It Isn’t Just About RomanceWed, 15 Feb 2023 - 0h
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